Allergies in Relationships: Could a Kiss Be the Kiss of Death?

I was in 5th grade when my aunt told me to be careful about kissing boys. “Gross,” I thought at the time, but “Why?” I wondered. A Teen Vogue article from 2016, details the true story of Myriam Ducre-Lemay, a twenty-year-old girl who died from anaphylaxis after kissing her boyfriend. Myriam’s boyfriend did not know she was allergic to peanuts when he ate a peanut butter sandwich and then kissed her goodnight. Myriam’s story is tragic and terrifying to those of us who live with severe food allergies. It's also an important reminder to be careful because an allergy could be the kiss of death.

While many of us with severe food allergies might find it uncomfortable to talk about our allergies, Myriam’s story can teach us some lessons about the importance of discussing our them, especially if we are in relationships. According to Dr. Christine McCusker, informing people of your severe allergy is the most important part of managing food allergies. It’s critical to let people know what you are allergic to, what to do in an emergency, and how to use your epi pen. An additional step to take is to wear a medical

bracelet, so others are aware of your allergies and know who to contact in an emergency. Allergy safety tips like these can save lives.

According to Kidshealth.org, there are steps people with severe food allergies should take to protect themselves before they kiss someone else. Here are some allergy safety tips to remember if you or someone you know is dating and has food allergies: First, make sure your partner knows about your allergy. Next, ask if she or he has eaten the allergen. Also, make sure you wait at least a few hours before kissing if your partner has been exposed to your allergen. Finally, have your boyfriend or girlfriend brush his or her teeth before you kiss. Yes, this is another no fun layer of the allergy experience. And yes, this could kill the mood, but it's better that the mood dies than you!