Allergies in Relationships: Could a Kiss Be the Kiss of Death?

I was in 5th grade when my aunt told me to be careful about kissing boys. “That's gross,” I thought. But I also wondered why. A Teen Vogue article from 2016, tells the true story of Myriam Ducre-Lemay. She was a twenty-year-old girl who died from anaphylaxis after she kissed her boyfriend. Myriam’s boyfriend did not know she was allergic to peanuts. So, he ate a peanut butter sandwich and later on kissed her goodnight. Myriam’s story is tragic and terrifying. For those of us who live with severe food allergies, it's also an important reminder that an allergy could be the kiss of death.

While people with severe food allergies can feel uncomfortable talking about their allergies, Myriam’s story shows us why it's important to talk about them. This is even more imprtant if we are in a relationship. According to Dr. Christine McCusker, "Informing people of your severe allergy is the most important part of managing food allergies". She believes It’s important to let people know what you are allergic to, what to do in an emergency, and how to use your epi pen. You might also want to wear a medical bracelet. It tells others about your allergies and who to contact in an emergency. Allergy safety tips like these can save lives.

According to Kidshealth.org, there are steps people with severe food allergies can take to protect themselves before they kiss someone else. First, make sure your partner knows about your allergy. Next, ask if she or he has eaten the allergen. If so, make sure you wait at least a few hours before kissing your partner. Finally, have your partner brush their teeth before you kiss them. Yes, this is another no fun part of the allergy experience. And yes, this could kill the mood, but it's better if the mood dies than you!